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Positive children from negative

Negative children to positive children: leading child coaches reveal their secrets to turning around that negative attitude

Negative thinking child leaning on fence

How do you turn a negative child into a positive child? If your child is negative, you probably notice parents with positive children and worry about your child.

Is your child prone to giving up before they have started? Do they expect to fail and maybe go ahead and fail partly because they expected to fail? As Henry Ford illustrates, a positive attitude and mindset is crucial: "If you think you can you're right and if you think you can't you're right".

Here are some tips and techniques to turn your child's negative thought processes into positive and optimistic ones:

1. Positive thinking using visualisation. Visualisation is a technique that uses the imagination to help us bring what we want in life to fruition. It harnesses the power of our imagination to help us achieve our goals.

When sportspeople go out to perform, a lot of the most successful stars imagine themselves winning before the race or match starts. They 'watch' a vivid movie in their mind of them playing brilliantly and winning, the idea being that when they actually go out for real, they mentally hit the play button and their body makes their dream a reality. What really makes this effective is, while playing the video, feeling the feelings you would experience during that winning performance - by making the visualisation rich with sensory memories.

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  • Ask your child to sit comfortably, close their eyes and think of a time they did something really well
  • Ask them how they felt at the time - what they felt, thought, saw and heard and who they were with and how they reacted
  • Then ask them to think about something they find challenging, for example doing really well in a spelling test
  • They should then imagine it going really well and play a movie of the event going perfectly. So in the spelling test they would know all the answers and write them down effortlessly, smiling as they write, and getting full marks and celebrating.
  • And when it comes to the test, they can replay the images - this will only be effective if they have done the work of course, but it will support their preparation

2. Positive language and good expectations. Encourage your child to say 'I can do it' rather than 'I can't do it'.

3. Encouraging them to try and keep trying. Children who are confident and positive are often resilient. They are not fazed by failure, often treating it is a setback and learning the lesson it holds. Being despondent is understandable for children when they don't achieve what they would like. It is part of their emotional growth and development to develop resilience and mental strength to persist in the face of disappointment.

4. Setting and achieving realistic goals to build confidence. Nothing succeeds like success - it is an upward spiral. So set your child off on a journey of victory and accomplishment by setting a goal they can achieve, ideally with their input, with smaller milestones along the way. So the goal could be learning to swim 25 metres, with the first milestone holding their breath underwater.

5. Celebrate successes and make them feel like a winner. Linked to the previous tip, winner and loser are labels, and which do you think is more motivational and inspiring? Choose to boost your child's self-image by helping them feel like a winner. Think of things your child has accomplished, recall them with pride and remind them they did that by themselves and that they are amazing. Every child has had these experiences. Use them to foster feelings of pride, empowerment and capability.

6. Praise is free! Nothing deflates a child more than cutting criticism. They take it is a criticism of them as a person, not the thing that you were wound up about, and it affects their self-worth. Position constructive feedback as what they could have differently. Children can cause infuriation and frustration but part of our challenge as parents is to take a deep breath when we are about to blow a fuse. Remember, if children knew better they would have done it differently.

7. Build their self-esteem. Confidence can be said to conquer all. Using some of the techniques above and others, help your child feel better about themselves and proud to be who they are.

In summary, your can combat your child's self-doubt and negative thinking by being encouraging and supportive. Praise their achievements and help them feel like a winner. In the process you may touch on some of your own habits and techniques, and see what you can do differently as a parent to help them.

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